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FIVE SIMPLE AND ESSENTIAL STEPS TO GETTING WHAT YOU WANT

FIVE SIMPLE AND
ESSENTIAL STEPS TO GETTING WHAT YOU WANT
A  former client sat in my office totally
overcome by his family conditions. I was aware that he was depending on me to
help him navigate through his despair and back to his sense of living his familiar,
satisfying life.  I was also aware that recently I had also
allowed myself to get caught up in conditions and was not feeling particularly optimistic myself.
During the
past few weeks, there have been an unusually high number of events that seem to scream and demand that we react
in fear and/or anger to our conditions. There was a mass shooting in Las Vegas
that affected multiple families that I or my wife know personally, the hurricane that devasted Puerto Rico where my wife Yolanda has extended family and a friend whose family are in more danger than is reported by general news outlets, fierce and
destructive fires in Northern California that destroyed thousands of homes and
caused deaths while  simultaneously right
here in Orange County fires destroyed a number of homes and caused mandatory
evacuations by people I know personally, plus there are continuous national news reports of threats
of war. And at the same time, people close to me were experiencing significant
health challenges. I acknowledge that I was struggling to stay centered in
Truth and not allow myself to become overwhelmed.
A Miracle Is Simply A
Willingness To Believe A Better Idea

I realized
that I had allowed myself to neglect my daily Spiritual Practices. I allowed
myself to feel too busy to start my day re-centering myself in Truth. Daily Spiritual Practices  are
called daily practices for a reason.
Just because  I did a lot of breathing
yesterday does not exempt me from the need to do daily breathing again today. Some things do not store well.   As
always, whenever I neglect doing my daily practices daily , sooner or later I begin to feel controlled by conditions
instead of using what I know to shift my conditions. I suspect many others experience
this as well. 
At times like this I am so grateful for this teaching and as I “snap
out of it” and resume using the knowledge and tools that I have learned, my experiences
change and everything improves. It has been truthfully said that when we change
how we think about conditions, conditions change.
I started
having an influx of clients who needed to know many of the exact same things about which I needed to remind myself.  In addition,
I was fortunately the scheduled speaker at our Wednesday night service, “Wednesday Wisdom”. It is hosted and  facilitated each week by Reverend Judee Chapman. The topic had been chosen months ago and was
titled “Five Simple Steps To Get What You Want”. It was the perfect refresher
of what I needed to remember.  
Anytime we
want to bring a new experience into our lives there are five steps that must be
done. I used to teach four steps. I have recently re-discovered that there is a
another step. That new “first step” makes the whole process easier and more
effective.
Step 1. Shift Your Mood

1. Find something to read, watch, or listen to that can
shift you to a more optimistic mood. There are sites on the internet full of
inspiring stories. A good source is to search youtube for an inspiring America
has talent episode or Britain, Bulgaria, Slovakia etc has talent ( they are
everywhere). Many of these are so uplifting they warm your heart. Lately, I
have been listening to a youtube music video by Natalie Merchant called “Wonder”
It is from 1995 and is 
just as relevant today. 

Check it out. You will enjoy it. I placed a link at the end
of this post. If you go there please remember to return here to read the other
steps 

  

Step 2. What Would You Love to Have In Your Life


2. Not just what you would like but what would you Love?  Get as clear as you are able on what you want.?
 Think of it this way. When you order
something online from Amazon or some other site you don’t type in “Just send me
something you think I would like.” 
Instead, you are very precise on the name of the article, the code numbers
and color choices where applicable. Take the same approach to the new experience
you are desiring, whether it is improved finances, health, relationships or
work. You don’t have to wait until you have it perfect before moving on to step
3 but make it an ongoing project until you have it clear.
Step 3.  Not Just a Wish. Wishes Are Weak  – This Is  Real

3. Make a firm decision that it is going to happen. This
is a step most people overlook. You probably never equated it with the differences
in your own successes when you did it and your unsuccessful wishes when you did
not. It is absolutely essential. It makes all the difference and you have
already proved it to yourself.  Look back
on your life and examine the things you wanted to do, be, have, and that you
actually accomplished and experienced versus those that never materialized in
your life. You will probably notice that for the things that did arrive you
made a firm decision that you would succeed and then did whatever it took despite
any obstacles. For those things that never worked out your decision was hesitant
and your will to go forward crumbled as obstacles and difficulties appeared in
your conditions.
Step 4.  Get Rid Of All Your REAL Obstacles

4. Identify every thought, idea and belief you have that
is incompatible with getting what it is that you want. For example sometimes
people tell me they want a new, good relationship. Later she/he says  “all the good ones are taken”. Now we have a
physics problem. Those two ideas – having a new good relationship – and –all the
good ones are taken- cannot exist at the same time. One of them has to go.
Someone else might want more money and also hold unexamined beliefs that people
who have over a certain amount of money are bad, or that there is a nobleness about
suffering or simply that money is scarce and the amount that they want is
impossible. Therefore it is necessary to consistently examine your ideas and beliefs
(notice your self-talk). Every idea that is incongruent with getting what you
want needs to be identified and released. It’s an ongoing process even as you
move on to step 5.
Step 5. Acting Is Not Pretending

5.  Act as if what you are wanting is already occurring.  Many
people have heard “fake it ‘till you
make it”. That is not what I am talking about. I am  talking about taking the action on the next
obvious step that you would take if you believed with absolute certainty (not
hoped) that what you want in your life is already taking form. For example
suppose someone told you that he/she knew for certain that he/she was going to
Europe this summer and that he/she had no idea how because there was no money available.
 I would ask a simple question. I would ask
if he/she had a passport. If he/she didn’t I would know that he/she did not
really believe it. If someone knew for certain he/she was going to Europe
getting a passport is something that people do who know they are going on a
trip. If you had a house for sale, and you really intended to sell it you would
fix it up and get it ready for sale before a buyer showed up because that is
what people do who really intend to sell a house. Taking action that is
congruent with getting what you want because you have to be ready to receive it
when it arrives. If your sailboat is stuck in an area with no wind you might
pray for wind. If you don’t already have your sails up before the wind comes,
it will go right past you because you were treating prayer like a wish instead
of a certainty.
I recognize
that when I am trying to change my condition and I am in “struggle” mode, it
can be hard to do some of these steps. When that is the case then I suggest in addition
to all of the above that you take Steps 6 and 7.  Step 6 is work with a Practitioner and Step 7
is develop a set of daily Spiritual Practices and do them daily.

The trick to effective
prayer is developing a level of trust in the prayer process that enables you to
move right along in the direction of your dreams. We call that opening our
consciousness.  Sometimes we need to begin by praying for clarity and to
deepen our trust before we can budge those old beliefs.
   – Reverend Dr. Jane Claypool

Here is the link I promised to Natalie Merchant’s youtube video “Wonder” in step one;     https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6zpYFAzhAZY.        Notice the wonderful Guitar work by Jennifer Turner at a time (maybe still) that it was uncommon for a woman guitarist to be chosen as lead guitar. Although Natalie Merchant is great Jennifer Turner added so much to this whole album.


Posted by Rev. Bruce Fredenburg 

Staff Minister; Science of Mind in Mental Health

In addition to being
an Ordained Minister with Centers for Spiritual Living Reverend  Bruce is a Licensed Marriage and Family
Therapist, practicing in Laguna Hills, California since 1982. He is a Clinical
Member of the California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists, a Child
Specialist and Divorce Coach with Collaborative Divorce Solutions Orange County
a member of  the International
Association of Collaborative Professionals and is a trained  Mediator.  Reverend  Bruce is also a professional speaker who
brings wit and humor into everything he does He has served as a Staff Minister
with a focus on Science of Mind in Mental Health at CSLCV since 2003
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