Long ago I heard the group Alliance sing an amazing song, the lyrics began:
“I love myself the way I am,/ there’s nothing I need to change./ I’ll always be the perfect me,
If Jack Kornfield’s words are true, then our stubborn insistence on making ourselves wrong, is the very thing that is fragmenting our lives. He also says that we are ‘dividing ourselves’ from it. I am not entirely certain what this means but my best guess is that we are no longer able to see the wholeness that we are.
The practice of self-love and self-acceptance is not for the spiritually immature. It takes mindful observation and kind and diligent practice. It is usually not something that is done without effort. It is about stopping the inner war and making peace with every aspect of oneself.
For those of us, who believed for one reason or another that we were intrinsically flawed, it is very difficult to bring those shadows to the light and accept them as part of the sacred self.
Recently a friend brought me a gift of chocolates. Each chocolate was looking fantastic. (And they tasted swell too.) There were different sizes, shapes, colors and textures. What would I have missed if I had rejected the colored ones or the square ones because they were different?
I would have missed a whole lot of enjoyment. Love and accept your whole self. You are already enough. Life is sweet.